The Second Step
curriculum is targeted to meet the needs of each grade level and will be taught
on Mondays starting the second week of school. Themed units of study include:
- Skills for
Learning
- Empathy and
Communication
- Emotion
Management
- Problem Solving
- Bullying
Prevention
To access more information about Second Step, please visit www.secondstep.org. Also, check out my blog page on SEL featuring local and nationwide informational videos at http://mssepp.blogspot.com/p/sel-program.html.
If you have any questions about the
program, please do not hesitate to contact me for more information. Thank you
for supporting your child in learning these new skills designed to promote
success in school and life.
Schools, Families, and Social and Emotional Learning
Ten Things You Can Do at Home
1. Focus on
strengths. When your child brings home a test, talk first
about what he or she did well. Then talk about what can be improved. Praise
specific strengths. Don’t just criticize things that were done wrong.
2. Follow
up with consequences for misbehavior. Sometimes parents say
things in anger that don’t curb the behavior in the long run. You might say,
“Because of what you did, no television for a month.” Both you and your child
know that after one or two days the TV will go back on. Decide on consequences
that are fair, and then carry them out.
3. Ask
children how they feel. When you ask your child about his or her
feelings, the message is that feelings matter and you care.
4. Find
ways to stay calm when angry. It’s normal to get angry
or irritated sometimes. Learn to recognize “trigger situations” and do
something about them before you lose control. Try taking deep breaths for a few
moments. Consider having a “quiet area” where people can go when they are
upset. Or you can just stop talking and leave the room for a while. Sit down as
a family and talk about what everyone can do to stay calm.
5. Avoid
humiliating or mocking your child. This can make children
feel bad about themselves. It can lead to a lack of self-confidence and, in
turn, problems with schoolwork, illness, and trouble getting along with
friends. Unfair criticism and sarcasm also hurts the bond of trust between
children and parents. Be mindful of how you speak to your children. Give them
the room to make mistakes as they learn new skills.
6. Be
willing to apologize. Parents need to be able to apologize to their
children if what they said was not what they meant. Calmly explain what you
really wanted to say. By doing this you’re being a good role model. You’re
showing how important it is to apologize after hurting someone. You’re teaching
that it’s possible to work through problems with respect for the other person.
7. Give
children choices and respect their wishes. When children have
a chance to make choices, they learn how to solve problems. If you make all
their choices for them, they’ll never learn this key skill. Giving children
ways to express preferences and make decisions shows that their ideas and
feelings matter.
8. Ask
questions that help children solve problems on their own. When
parents hear their child has a problem, it’s tempting to step in and take over.
But this can harm a child’s ability to find solutions on his or her own. A
helpful approach is to ask good questions. Examples include, “What do you think
you can do in this situation?” and “If you choose a particular solution, what
will be the consequences of that choice?”
9. Read
books and stories together. Reading stories aloud is
a way to share something enjoyable and learn together about other people. For
example, stories can be a way to explore how people deal with common issues
like making or losing friends or handling conflicts. Ask your child’s teacher
or a librarian to recommend stories on themes that interest you and your
children.
10.
Encourage sharing and helping. There are many ways to do
this. Together you and your child can prepare food in a homeless shelter or go
on a fund-raising walk-a-thon. You can help out elderly neighbors or needy
families. This teaches children that what they do can make a difference in the
lives of others.