Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts

Monday, March 17, 2014

Self-Injury in the News

It was disappointing and heart-wrenching to read this article from today's Austin-American Statesman:

As Austin schools tally nearly 1,000 cases, experts warn of prevalence of ‘self-injury’ among teens 
By Benjamin Wermund - American-Statesman Staff

When Lizzie was in seventh grade, she would use a mechanical pencil to cut her arms and ankles under her desk. Her teachers never noticed.

She would do it to make herself feel numb when she was anxious or when her emotions overwhelmed her. It became an addiction that Lizzie, now a high school student, is still fighting.

Health officials say self-injury — cutting, hitting, burning, bruising or otherwise hurting oneself to relieve stress or anxiety — frequently stems from underlying emotional or psychiatric problems, such as bipolar disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder.
It is an often misunderstood problem that is more widespread than parents might think.
The Austin school district last year began tracking when students tell counselors or teachers that they are cutting or hurting themselves, and it has tallied nearly 1,000 such reports so far.

“When I got those numbers, I was alarmed,” said Dianna Groves, a crisis counseling coordinator at the district who started the program. “For many years we’ve known it’s high, but the last two or three years we started paying more attention to it.”
Health officials say self-injury isn’t a fad: for decades, it has been something teenagers and preteens have seen their friends and classmates doing, and some try it, not realizing that it can become addictive or that it can be a precursor to suicide.

“Self-injury is a really powerful punch — this is a lot more than people are bargaining for when they start,” said Linda Spielman, a nationally known expert and counselor at Dialectical Behavior Therapy Associates of Austin, who has worked with Austin and other area districts to build awareness of self-injury in schools.

The body reacts to the cuts, burns and bruises by releasing serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. Self-injury can become addictive as the body builds tolerance.
There is relatively little research about it, however, so it’s difficult to say whether self-injury is becoming more or less prevalent. Spielman compared the growing awareness of self-injury to the way eating disorders became better known and understood throughout the 1970s and ’80s.

'You put a target on your back'
Lizzie, who was a straight-A student and a cheerleader in a Central Texas middle school, said she started cutting after finding herself in a “bad situation” with a boy. She became depressed and took one of the many razors in her parent’s garage that her father used for his business. Like many self-injuring teens and preteens, Lizzie was crafty. She would hide the razors in a small first-aid kit her parents gave her, and she would only cut parts of her body she could cover with clothes.

Her parents saw the cuts once or twice, but they didn’t think it was very serious at first. They talked to her about it and thought she was going to stop.

“It was almost like it was a fad and something to try,” Lizzie’s mother, Terri, said.
Eventually her friends at school noticed. Some tried to help. Once in the locker room, Lizzie was planning to cut, but dropped her razor. A girl who Lizzie said she didn’t know well took the razor and flushed it down the toilet. Others, though, weren’t as understanding. Lizzie said she was bullied a lot.

“When you start cutting, you put a target on your back,” Terri said.

Spielman, who has worked with Lizzie for the last few years, said that’s typical. She teaches her clients other coping mechanisms. Lizzie writes poems or makes scrapbooks. Now, after years of therapy, Lizzie says she still gets the urge to do it, but she knows the impulse will pass if she waits. She calls it “riding the wave.”

Unhealthy coping mechanism
Last year, at least 521 students told Austin school officials they were struggling with self-injury. An additional 460 students have reported injuring themselves so far this school year. Officials say that more students are likely in the same situation but have not reported it, and the tracking program is still new, so many schools are still not turning in complete figures.

Officials have also worked to prevent self-injury in schools.

Officials rewrote the district’s crisis handbook over the summer and added a protocol for dealing with self-injury. They did staff development at the beginning of the school year with counselors. They’re also creating a DVD aimed at middle schoolers to teach them what to do if they or their friends are hurting themselves.

The increased awareness and understanding is important for making sure students get the care they need, said Meagan Butler, a counselor at the Liberal Arts and Sciences Academy who helped develop the protocol this summer.

“Self-injury is one of those things a lot of people aren’t aware of,” Butler said. “What surprises me time and time again is how well the kids hide it. Our kids are really good at masking — their grades will look great and they’re still involved in clubs and look happy, but they are doing this.”

Once adults do find out, though, they need to be sure to treat it like it is: an unhealthy coping mechanism.

“There are a lot of things people do that are unhealthy, and this is just one of them,” Butler said. “It’s not like you’re crazy for cutting … you just learned a way to cope that’s not healthy.”

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Celebrate Kindness: No Name-Calling Week 2014


I am writing to tell you about an exciting week that is quickly becoming a yearly tradition at Lee Elementary.  No Name-Calling Week was inspired by a young adult novel entitled The Misfits by popular author James Howe.  The book tells the story of a group of friends trying to survive the seventh grade in the face of all too frequent taunts based on their weight, height, intelligence, and gender.  Motivated by the inequities they see around them, the “Gang of Five” (as they are known) creates a new political party during student council elections and runs on a platform aimed at wiping out name-calling of all kinds.  They win the support of the school’s principal for their cause and their idea for a “No Name Day” at school.
Motivated by this simple yet powerful idea, a coalition of over forty education, youth advocacy, and mental health organizations have partnered to organized an actual No Name-Calling Week in schools across the nation annually.  The project seeks to focus national attention on the problem of name-calling in schools, and to provide students and educators with the tools and inspiration to launch an ongoing dialogue about ways to eliminate name-calling in their communities.

At Lee Elementary, we recognize the importance of building empathy and teaching respect to our students, and note the impact words can have on their well-being.  A recent survey conducted by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that students aged 9 to 13 consider name-calling the worst kind of verbal bullying, and that threatening words or taunting based on race or appearance have as much negative impact as does physical bullying.  According to the study, students who regularly experience verbal and non-verbal forms of bullying report hurt feelings, low self-esteem, depression, living in fear and torment, poor academic achievement, physical abuse, and suicide.  No Name-Calling Week is one way in which we are responding to these upsetting statistics.

No Name-Calling Week will take place during the week of January 20-24.  During my guidance time students will work on activities that will help them realize the impact of verbal bullying, and be taught strategies for coping with and putting an end to name-calling.  We hope that No Name-Calling Week will help all students consider the weight of the words they use, and make school a safer, healthier place for all of our children.  We believe in Celebrating Kindness while working to create a safe school free of name-calling, bullying and bias.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Body Image & Self Esteem in Girls

As girls progress throughout the grades they begin to take more notice of themselves and how they are alike and different to other girls in their grade.  They focus on hair styles, clothing labels & style, and body shape - many of which are influenced by our media.  Girls start to feel that they aren't skinny enough or pretty enough and judge themselves harshly against unrealistic expectations that society promotes.  All of this pressure can have negative effects on growing girls and promote unhealthy behavior.

I showed my 6th grade girls this video created by Dove's Campaign for Real Beauty entitled "Evolution of Beauty":

 

After watching the video, we discussed their reactions to it.  What surprised you? What is beauty to them?  What characteristics do they have that make them beautiful?

Then we took a quick self-esteem quiz that I found on PD & Life Skills website:




We also discussed ways to have a positive body image with this poster I found on Pinterest:

 

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Elementary Bibliotherapy List

A Bad Case of Stripes by David Shannon
Topic: Acceptance; nonconformity

A Family That Fights by Sharon Chester Bernstein
Topic: Family abuse

A Place for Starr by Howard Schor
Topic: Family Violence

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Sticky Situations: How to Tackle Tricky, Icky Problems and Tough Times by American Girl
Topic: Problem solving

A Terrible Thing Happened by Margaret Holmes
Topic: Children witnessing trauma

Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst
Topic: Everyone has bad days; anger management.

Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman
Topic: Goal setting and attainment

Amber on the Mountain by Tony Johnston
Topic: Friendships

Amelia Bedelia Bakes a Cake by Peggy Parish & Lynn Sweat
Topic: A funny story about a girl who always makes mistakes

And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson & Peter Parnell
Topic: Family differences

Becoming Naomi Leon by Pam Munoz
Topic: Finding one’s heritage; anxiety & disappointment

Blues Clues: I’m Sorry by Justin Chanda
Topic: Honesty; integrity

But Not the Hippopotamus by Sandra Boynton
Topic: Animals; friends

Caillou: Baby Sister by Jaceline Sauschagrin
Topic: New sibling


Chicken Soup for the Kid’s Soul by Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
Topic: Short stories coving topics ranging from divorce to friends to eating disorders

Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes
Topic: Bullying; self esteem

David Gets in Trouble by David Shannon
Topic: Behavioral issues

Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
Topic: Divorce

Divorce is a Grown up Problem by Janet Sinburg
Topic: Divorce

Don’t Pop Your Balloon by Janet M. Bender
Topic: Controlling anger

Fly Away Home by Eve Bunting
Topic: Homelessness

Franklin Says Sorry by P. Bourgeois & B. Clark
Topic: Friendship

Gertrude McFuzz by Dr. Seuss
Topic: Being yourself; self acceptance

Good-Bye Daddy! by B. Weninger
Topic: Divorce

Goodbye Mousie by R.H. Harris
Topic: Death

Herbie’s Troubles by Carol Chapman
Topic: Bullying; standing up for yourself

Hey Little Ant by Phillip & Hannan Hoose
Topic: Empathy; bullying

How are you Feeling? Foods with Moods by Saxton Freyman & Joast Elffers
Topic: Identifying feelings

I Like Myself by Karen Beaumont
Topic: Self esteem


I Love You With all my Heart by Noris Kern
Topic: How families show love in different ways

I Want to be Somebody New! By Robert Lopshire
Topic: Self esteem, self concept, self worth

I’m Gonna Like Me by Jamie Lee Curtis
Topic: Self esteem

I’m So Embarrassed by Robert Munsch
Topic: Being embarrassed

It Must Hurt A Lot by Doris Sanford
Topic: Death and grief

It’s Hard to be Five: Learning How to Work My Control Panel by Jamie Lee Curtis
Topic: Self control

It’s Okay to be Different by Todd Parr
Topic: Acceptance

Julius, The Baby of the World by Kevin Henkes
Topic: New sibling

Love You Forever by Robert Munsch
Topic: Parental Love

Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce by Maude Spelman
Topic: Divorce

Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss
Topic: Different emotions on different days

Mean Soup by Betsy Everitt
Topic: Handling emotions

Mommy Laid an Egg by Babette Cole
Topic: How babies are made

Mr. Peabody’s Apples by Madonna
Topic: Words can be harmful

My Beastly Brother by Laura Leuck
Topic: Sibling rivalry


My Friend, Jasper Jones by Rosamond Dauer
Topic: Friendship

My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig
Topic: Bullying

Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss
Topic: Motivation

Please Tell! A Child’s Story about Sexual Abuse by Jessie
Topic: Sexual Abuse

Polar Bear and the Rainbow by Moira Butterfield
Topic: Diversity

Por Favor Di: Un Cuento Para Ninos Sobre el Abuso Sexual by Jessie
Topic: Sexual abuse

Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes by Eleanor Coerr
Topic: Hiroshima; death and grief

Salt in His Shoes by Deloris Jordan
Topic: Overcoming obstacles

Say Something by Peggy Moss
Topic: Bullying; speaking up

Shades of People by Shelley Rotner and Sheila M. Kelly
Topic: Individual differences; self esteem

Shredderman: Secret Identity by Wendelin Van Draanen
Topic: Bullying

Some Things are Scary by Florence Parry Heid
Topic: Scary situations and how to deal with them

Sophie’s Trophy by Susan Middleton Elya
Topic: Self esteem

Spider’s First Day at School by Robert Kraus
Topic: School anxiety

Stop Picking on Me by Pat Thomas
Topic: Bullying


Talking Speech Disorders to School by John Bryant
Topic: Why kids go to speech therapy

Teammates by Peter Golenbock
Topic: Jackie Robinson; acceptance

The 10th Good Thing about Barney by Judith Voirst
Topic: Death

The Ant Bully by John Nickle
Topic: Bullying

The Bear Who Lost His Sheep: A Story about Worrying Too Much by J. Lamb-Shapiro
Topic: Worrying

The Berenstain Bears: New Baby by Stan & Jan Berenstain
Topic: New sibling

The Cay by Theodore Taylor
Topic: Racism

The Colors of Us by Karen Katz
Topic: Acceptance

The Empty Place: A Child’s Guide through Grief by Roberta Temes
Topic: Grief and loss

The Flower Man by Mark Ludy
Topic: Moral principles

The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein
Topic: Giving

The Great Fuzz Frenzy by Janet & Susan Stevens
Topic: Sharing

The Grouchy Lady Bug by Eric Carle
Topic: Social behavior

The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes
Topic: Teasing, bullying, lying; importance of making amends

The Hyena Who Lost His Sheep: A Story about Worrying too Much by J. Lamb-Shapiro
Topic: Worrying


The Kids Blue Day Book by Bradley Trevor Greive
Topic: Emotions of animals

The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
Topic: Confronting difficult situations

The Lion Who Lost His Roar: A Story about Facing Your Fears by M.S. Nass
Topic: Overcoming fears

The Missing Piece by Shel Silverstein
Topic: The nature of quest and fulfillment

The Next Place by Warren Hanson
Topic: Death and dying

The Oak Inside the Acorn by Max Lucado
Topic: Self-esteem; identity

The Penguin Who Lost Her Cool: A Story About Controlling Your Anger by M. Sobel
Topic: Anger control

The Rabbit Who Lost His Hop: A Story about Self-Control by M.S. Nass
Topic: Self control

The Recess Queen by Alexis O’Neill
Topic: Bullying

The Rough-Face Girl by David Shannon
Topic: Algonquin Indian version of Cinderella.

The Time Balooga Forgot Other People’s Feelings by Steve Barancik
Topic: Social skills

The Way I Feel by Janan Cain
Topic: Feelings

There’s a Boy in the Girls Bathroom by Louis Sachar
Topic: Bullying

Today I Feel Silly by Jamie Lee Curtis
Topic: Moods and emotions

Un Lugar Seguro Para Vivir: Un Cuento Para Ninos que han Exprimentado la Violencia Domestica by M.A. Harrison
Topic: Domestic violence

Uncle Willy’s Tickles: A Child’s Right to Say No by M. Aboff
Topic: Child sexual abuse

Unlovable by Dan Yaccarino
Topic: Self esteem

Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams
Topic: Power of love

Vera’s Baby Sister by Vera Rosenberry
Topic: New sibling

We Are All Alike, We Are All Different by Cheltenham
Topic: Diversity

Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes
Topic: Bullying; self esteem

When Dinosaurs Die by Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown
Topic: Death

When My Parents Forgot How to be Friends by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
Topic: Divorce; arguing parents

When I Feel Angry by Cornelia Maude Spelman
Topic: Anger management

When Sophie gets Angry – Really, Really Angry by Molly Bang
Topic: Anger management

Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak
Topic: Bad behavior

Zen Shorts by Jon Muth
Topic: Making friends; letting bad days go by