Monday, December 2, 2013

Talking About Conflict

In second grade we've been reviewing how Kelso's choices can help us solve our problems.  Today we dove into a discussion about the roots of conflict.  Why does conflict happen?  What does it look like?  Is it a normal part of life? (Yes, it is a normal part of life!) How do we resolve conflict? 

In all conflicts there is a relationship between the people involved and a goal that each of them want.  I introduced to students the 5 different ways that we handle conflict:

We discussed how each approach to resolving conflict ends with a variety of win/lose combinations.  Each approach also values your relationship with the person and/or goal you want to achieve differently as well.  Thinking about what is most important to you can help you when you are trying to resolve conflict.

Then we watched this adorable video that reviews Kelso's choices for them:

After reviewing how to state an "I Message" from Kelso's "Talk it Out" section of the wheel, I was ready to put them to the test at resolving conflicts!  I gave each of them 4 scenarios to come up with solutions too.  We talked about which style of conflict resolution we used in each.


  1. Hello! Can you tell me where you have found "Kelso's choices"? Is this a resource book you have found? Or is this something you made? Thanks for your info!

    1. In this post I created the posters to fit my needs for the lesson, but Kelso's Choices is a conflict management skills program that you can find here:

      I bought the posters and the puppets to help teach our students ways to resolve conflict that are easy and approachable. The curriculum is great because it helps students see the different between a smaller problem (that they can figure out) and larger problems (that they will need an adult's help). They get a lot practice with role playing so they are prepared in case a conflict arises.